The importance of a Deposit

When going on tour somewhere making a deposit is something I now insist upon. There are a number of reasons for doing so. I know there are many escorts who insist on getting them and I have decided to make it something I do before going on tour as well. There are many costs involved in organising a tour somewhere and so because of that I like to ensure I have a number of guaranteed and secured appointments made before I visit somewhere.

I know that many have various issues with making a deposit and I do understand that so hopefully this post will help you understand why I ask for them. I have been on a few tours of late where I have had people express interest in spending time with me when I get to town, but once I arrive locking a time in with them hasn’t happened. So I decided that for any of my tours to actually go ahead a deposit to lock in a time will be required.

If after making the deposit you change your mind or are unable to attend as long as you give 24 hours notice the deposit will be refunded, if you give less then 24 hours notice for the cancellation the deposit will not be refunded. This is because I am paying for – Flights, accommodation and travel time to visit so I need to make sure that I have a number of genuine booking lined up. If I were to cancel the tour due to personal reasons obviously your deposit is fully refunded.

By making the deposit it means that If I am only in town for a few days, you get first pick of times together and it also ensures that you don’t miss out on spending time together. Because those who pay deposits always get first priority and first pick before anyone who makes last minute bookings. It also helps to make sure the tour goes ahead as scheduled and I don’t have to cancel it.

Again I do understand why many are hesitant in paying the deposits I really do. But I want you to understand why I ask for them and to understand that my required deposit is usually $50 to $100 into my ANZ Bank account which is taken off the amount you have to pay me for  when we spend our time together. This decision to ask for deposits prior to going on tour hasn’t been decided lightly, but it has become necessary to ensure that firstly you don’t miss out and secondly I am able to go ahead with the planning with out having concerns about the tour running smoothly because I would like to be able to enjoy seeing you as much as having you enjoy our time together.

So hopefully you can now understand why these deposits are important and we can work together to make sure my various tours are able to go ahead so we can have some good times

xoxox

Krissy.

A little update

Recently, after thinking about it alot, i decided to change some of my prices for some of my services. Yes, some have increased. There is a number of reasons for this.

  1. Because i felt it was time to increase them after a number of years of being what they were
  2. Some extra services i used to charge extra for will no longer have an extra charge so my full service will be a bit more inclusive.
  3. I feel that i have gotten to a point where i feel that its important to value myself more and be alot less stressed out and hopefully be able to be more present in what i offer.

I have found over the years because of my lower rates many have felt entitled to try and negotiate my prices which is not ok. So i decided maybe its time to increase them slightly. There will be no more changes to my rates in the future as i am now happy where they are at.

I have many regular callers who the above doesnt apply to and i definately appreciate you and appreciate spending time with you and i hope this doesnt stop you from wanting to spend time with me. I do encourage you, as regulars to become members of my VIP area so you can benefit the special deals i have in place just for members. Contact me for further info.

Hopefully due to this slight increase i can see some new and old friends, be more present and hopefully enjoy your company alot more.

I think its important for myself to value myself, find what will help me to be able to enjoy what i do and be able to always improve and add to what i offer and this is part of why i felt it was important to do this.

I will also be insisting on deposits on a more regular basis especially while touring because i believe its important and i wont be visiting most places for an extended time so my availability will be limited. So deposits will ensure you dont miss out on some time together. It will also show you genuinely want to spend time together. But ultimately it is purely so we dont miss out on some fun together

 

I look forward to a interesting and fun year ahead

Xoxoxox

South Coast Trip

So, im slowly working my way up the South Coast. I have started in Batemans Bay then i go off to Nowra and Wollongong. I have been coming to the South Coast for work for a few years, but prior to that i had been coming here for holidays since i was a child and have always loved it.

So far i have seen some lovely gents and been spending time exploring and going to the beach seeing the weather has been so lovely. I head up to Nowra on Sunday and i am only there for 2 days which should be lots of fun. Might go spend some time at Huskisson while im in Town.

Ill be taking photos of each place i visit and might even catch some selfies which ill post on Twitter if you want to check them out.

I really should come down here more often. Its always so relaxing and i always have such a good time. Hopefully i will be able to see some new and old “friends” while passing through.

Im actually considering spending a month exploring and visiting various parts of the south coast in the near future so if you’re in the area make sure you send me an email and let me know where you are, who knows i could decide to pop in and stay for a few days

 

You want a threesome? Please dont call me

Over the last 10 days i have had numerous requests from guys wanting a threesome with me and their buddy. If thats something youre into, thats cool no problems.

But to save us both some time, please dont call me if your looking for a threesome, whether its you and a buddy wanting me to join in or you and your wife, girlfriend or lover.

There are a few reasons for this.

  1. I prefer 1 on 1 sessions with the gentlemen i see. I dont like seeing 2 guys at once. Partly because i just dont enjoy it and partly because ive had a number of bad experiences that have turned me off from wanting to do them anymore
  2. If you and your missus are looking for a third to be honest i dont feel i am a good fit. The reason being is i am not bisexual at all. So sexually im not into women so doing that type of threesome isnt something i feel i can genuinely offer.
  3. Lastly to be totally honest threesomes are not my thing. I dont enjoy them. I dont feel comfortable in a group situation. Especially when they include people i have never done an appointment with individually with previously.

I am sure there are many great escorts out there who are happy to do them with you and i am sure they would show you an absolutely amazing time. I dont offer them as a service.

So if youre after any type of threesome, i am sure you can find someone more suitable and who enjoys doing them rather then contacting me

 

Xoxox

Krissy

Tour, relaxing by the pool & New Photos

So, last night I got a friend to take some new photos which I have added to my website for your viewing. They are totally untouched and just a bit of fun by the pool, and it really is a refreshing pool to go swimming in. I have an offer of fun together and swim together afterwards if your game and want to cool down after we have a good time together.

My time in Townsville is limited as I have decided to spend November and December going on tour and ill only be in Townsville 2 days a week staying somewhere near the city. So if you wish to spend some time with me before I go on tour, I am available until Wednesday 2nd November and I am happy to see you before I go away. I have put the start of my touring schedule up and as I go along I will keep it updated as I go. I am actually looking forward to visiting some new and old places and spending time with a variety of people along the way.

In January I plan to go on a massive overseas holiday and if you want to hear more about it ill be blogging and posting photos when I return home in time for my birthday at the end of January!! I will be heading to the US for about 3 weeks or so which I am really excited about as its been a long time since I have been there to visit so hopefully it will be a blast. I will be travelling to a few different cities while I am there, going to a friends wedding and catching up with some old and new friends and hopefully have an absolute blast!!

So far I have planned tours to Cairns, Sydney, Bundaberg and I will be adding other cities to that list as I go along so if you want to see me ether give me a call or even send me an email and maybe I can add your town to my tour schedule. Obviously a deposit will guarantee some time together.

So hopefully you enjoy my new photos and maybe take me up on the offer of a cooling swim after our time in the bedroom which could add some fun to our time together make it more interesting. And I look forward to your requests for towns to visits. For you lovely Townsville gents make sure you get in early before I head off as I don’t want to miss out on seeing you before I go.

xoxoxo

 

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Understanding Boundaries & Consent – From my perspective

Over the last few weeks, I have had a number of gentlemen who have contacted me after seeing one of my ads and wanting to be friends, or want me to be their girlfriend, or even just hook up for free. I have also had a number of gents contacting me and getting irritated at me because I choose not to offer certain services such as threesomes with their mates.

Now I want to talk about boundaries and consent because I think its important to discuss it. Yes I am a sex worker. Yes I get paid cash in return for sexual services. But I still am allowed to set boundaries and expect that even though there is a cash transaction I still need to consent on what we are doing together.

Lets start with boundaries. Things such as asking about my relationship status, if I have children, do I live alone or with someone, what is my real name, pushing me to do services I have said no to, pushing for services without condoms when I have made it clear they aren’t on offer, and the list goes on. I, like many others in this industry have set boundaries in place for privacy, because we have limits, because there are things we may not be comfortable doing, maybe because providing certain things make us feel unsafe so we don’t offer it, there are many reasons why we have our boundaries in place. As a “client” it is up to you to respect those boundaries. They generally aren’t up for negotiation. And honestly you really shouldn’t get offended if we state that we don’t want to discuss certain parts of our lives or don’t offer certain services, want to only be contacted a certain way etc. These boundaries aren’t in place to offend or upset you, they are to make our time together go smoothly and be as enjoyable as possible for us both. The minute you start pushing the boundaries you make it difficult to be able to enjoy your company, why? Because if you cant respect the boundaries we have in place how do we know you aren’t going to keep pushing until you get what you want, and then things become unsafe. So, as a gentlemen caller, If we have boundaries in place all we ask is that you respect them and don’t try and negotiate them.

Now lets talk consent. When you contact an escort to spend time with her/him, remember that paying for a service doesn’t give automatic consent. Understand that consent is more then just a yes or no. Its respecting boundaries. Its understanding that during our time together, chances are we have discussed what is and isn’t on offer prior to your booking together. So if an escort tells you on the phone No I don’t offer that, it means that you don’t have consent to do that particular thing. When your spending time together your escort will have discussed their boundaries with you. What you can and cant do with them. So part of consent is that you respect those boundaries because by not respecting them, you are showing that you don’t understand that just because your paying for someones time doesn’t mean you automatically have their consent and by not respecting boundaries or the fact you still require an escorts consent to go ahead with various activities means you are getting into non consent areas and this is where things can go south quickly. So remember – Respect, Understanding boundaries and Getting Consent prior to and during our time together will ensure you have a good time.

So at the end of the day remember that while we will be friendly and interested in you during our time together we just ask that you respect the boundaries we have in place and to remember to have consent during all activities, and if you aren’t sure ask, we wont be offended we will appreciate it.

 

What You Can Learn From Sex Workers About Consent – Womanist Musings

What is sexual consent? – Reachout.com

Understanding Sex Work in an Open Society – Open Society Foundation

“Sex workers are experts at sexual consent” – Femifesto Website

Sex workers and sexual assault  – Consented

What Consent Looks Like – Rainn

With Sex Workers Too, Rape Is Still Rape – Sexuality Policy Watch

Understanding Consent – No one asks for it

Sex Workers Share stories of clients using the “L” Word – Harlot Media

 

Everyones Experience is different – But here’s mine

I cant talk about others lived experiences because we each have our own. But I am going to take some time to talk about mine. Prior to entering into this industry I had a completely different career obviously. One that had a big impact on my life both good and bad and I had to walk away from it due to a long list of reasons and every day a part of me wishes I could go back to that because it was an amazing life. It wasn’t perfect by any means but it was pretty amazing. The people I have in my life because of that part of my life are amazing and accepting and open minded and they support my choices. They don’t judge me, they accept me as I am. They treat me and my life choices with respect and dignity.

But I will be honest, since I began this journey into sex work I have seen both the good and bad in people. I have had great experiences and well some that are not very good at all. The good ones can really make your day, week or month. It can be as small as a gentleman caller telling you that he had a great time or it can be that someone tells you they look forward to seeing you, or even something such as when they call you they make the whole process of arranging to meet easy because they have taken the time to read your website. These things and many others can really make this work fun, and enjoyable.

An incident happened the other evening, which honestly similar experiences happen often enough that its time to talk about it. I had a man call and was rude, crass, stroppy and just outright unpleasant on the phone. And he admitted to me that it was purely for entertainment for himself and his group of buddies who were with him. And his reaction when he was called out… When I told him that from my perspective if guys feel the need to call an escort and purposely waste her/his time or calling to purposely be rude and crass and borderline disgusting on the phone, it tells me that either his friends and him have nothing happening in their lives that this is how grown men keep entertained or they really don’t like women at all because no self respecting guy would ever treat a woman whether shes an escort or not like that. And his response to being called out was to start name calling. It wasn’t to apologise for his behaviour but to start nasty name calling. And honestly even after sobering up, I believe there would be no regrets on how they behaved.

Now, and remember this is from my own personal experiences, This type of behaviour is something I experience on a semi regular basis. Yet want to know something? In my personal life, the men who I spend time with and there are quite a few I call friends, would never consider treating anyone like this. EVER….. And it gets me wondering, like sending cock photos without asking first, when did this sort of behaviour become ok? become acceptable? Now as a plus size escort, along with this behaviour, there are the clients who call and because of what ever reason I choose to not see them, rather then responding with “ok thank you for your time” they respond with “well I didn’t really want to see you you fat pig, your just cheaper then some of the other” and again I wonder where have the manners gone that that is how someone responds to my choosing not to see them?

So lets have a talk about this. No one is entitled to my services. I decide who I do and don’t see, you are welcome to call and enquire.. If you are polite and respectful on the phone and show that we are a good match chances are we wont have a problem arranging to meet for some fun… To be honest I would enjoy seeing you if that’s how you are towards me both on the phone and when we meet. Polite and respectful doesn’t mean boring… It means you respect my boundaries and we will have a great time together…

Honestly, I have come to the conclusion that there are always going to be guy out there who are as described above and its just how it is. But maybe its time to come out and say this is not acceptable, that this isn’t how you treat others. And 80% of the people who I spend time with are great, they are fantastic company, its just that 20% that ruin it for others.

While I choose not to let it inherently bother me or take it personally, I will continue to call these guys out on their behaviour because I feel that the best way to deal with these people is to call them out on it and then move on to the next thing. Its like with bullies, if they aren’t called out on their behaviour they will continue doing it.

So I wish to let all those lovely gentlemen who contact me know that they are very much appreciated. That it really can make a difference both in my attitude towards you, but it can also determine that our time together will be enjoyable.

 

Please note – these are my own personal experiences, I cant talk for others as their experience is different to mine and all our experiences vary and how we react to them is different.

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