South Coast Trip

So, im slowly working my way up the South Coast. I have started in Batemans Bay then i go off to Nowra and Wollongong. I have been coming to the South Coast for work for a few years, but prior to that i had been coming here for holidays since i was a child and have always loved it.

So far i have seen some lovely gents and been spending time exploring and going to the beach seeing the weather has been so lovely. I head up to Nowra on Sunday and i am only there for 2 days which should be lots of fun. Might go spend some time at Huskisson while im in Town.

Ill be taking photos of each place i visit and might even catch some selfies which ill post on Twitter if you want to check them out.

I really should come down here more often. Its always so relaxing and i always have such a good time. Hopefully i will be able to see some new and old “friends” while passing through.

Im actually considering spending a month exploring and visiting various parts of the south coast in the near future so if you’re in the area make sure you send me an email and let me know where you are, who knows i could decide to pop in and stay for a few days

 

You want a threesome? Please dont call me

Over the last 10 days i have had numerous requests from guys wanting a threesome with me and their buddy. If thats something youre into, thats cool no problems.

But to save us both some time, please dont call me if your looking for a threesome, whether its you and a buddy wanting me to join in or you and your wife, girlfriend or lover.

There are a few reasons for this.

  1. I prefer 1 on 1 sessions with the gentlemen i see. I dont like seeing 2 guys at once. Partly because i just dont enjoy it and partly because ive had a number of bad experiences that have turned me off from wanting to do them anymore
  2. If you and your missus are looking for a third to be honest i dont feel i am a good fit. The reason being is i am not bisexual at all. So sexually im not into women so doing that type of threesome isnt something i feel i can genuinely offer.
  3. Lastly to be totally honest threesomes are not my thing. I dont enjoy them. I dont feel comfortable in a group situation. Especially when they include people i have never done an appointment with individually with previously.

I am sure there are many great escorts out there who are happy to do them with you and i am sure they would show you an absolutely amazing time. I dont offer them as a service.

So if youre after any type of threesome, i am sure you can find someone more suitable and who enjoys doing them rather then contacting me

 

Xoxox

Krissy

10 days left of 2016

I had only planned on being in Western Australia for a few days before I headed back to the East coast but because I have been having such a nice time I have ended up staying. I will be here until just after Christmas, and if you have had a chance you will see I have a special Christmas day offer available for those who want some good company on Christmas Day. I have organised a nice place to spend a few days in Fremantle and if you want to take advantage of my special offer on Christmas day give me a call.

I plan to be in Townsville for New Years eve though because I consider Townsville home. Though after my stay in Rockingham I am almost wanting to just move here instead. Its been great to be able to spend some time with my friends that live around the area. Though I have a number of plans for next year, depending on what happens who knows I could at some point end up living in Rockingham. But more on that next year when I work out what I am planning.

I cant believe how quickly this year has gone can you? Its been a bit up and down for me due to a number of personal issues but I am looking forward to new things happening next year. I plan on just enjoying the rest of 2016. Have a few nights out, meet some new gentlemen and who knows we could have a blast together. I know I have met a couple of really lovely gents while I have been in Perth and Rockingham.

I would love to hear about your plans for New Years, find out what youre going to get up to. I know I plan to get dressed up maybe hit the town and go dancing or something. Guess that depends on what my friends are going to get up to because its no fun spending it alone. I got the next part of my left arm tattoo done which was exciting, well at least for me anyway. Photos have been posted on twitter if you want to have a look. And I may get the next part done before NYE. its a work in progress.

So If I don’t see you between now and the end of the year I wish you a lovely Christmas if you celebrate it. If you don’t I hope you at least have a nice holiday and I hope your start to the new year goes well and that we can meet in 2017.

Yes, i have made changes

So over the last few weeks my tour dates and cities have altered. Generally its partly due to having such a good time in some places. Other places have been changed due to lack of interest or making deposits.

At this time of year i do understand that things are tight or you dont have as much flexibility in schedules. But when i list a place to go on tour if i dont get interest or deposits it indicates that there isnt the interest there.

Over the next few weeks my schedule is pretty limited due to Christmas and the fact i have made plans to go on an overseas holiday. So i do ask for deposits to secure bookings and that helps ensure the tour goes ahead because it shows me genuine interest and the fact you have taken the time to read my website. Which if i am honest with you is definitely a sexy thing

I have really had a great time here in Perth. Have seen some lovely gentlemen who i hope will come see me on my next visit back here. So if you would like some good company when i am in your city i have a number of services and packages to suit everyones budget.

On a random note though, while i have been travelling i have come across some hilarious youtube channels that ive become hooked on due to how funny they are. They are great to watch during my off time which is always good. I have also read some great new books which if you love to read its one topic i love to chat about. 

So i look forward to the rest of my trip and hopefully i can see some lovely new gentlemen along the way and have a good time

Tour, relaxing by the pool & New Photos

So, last night I got a friend to take some new photos which I have added to my website for your viewing. They are totally untouched and just a bit of fun by the pool, and it really is a refreshing pool to go swimming in. I have an offer of fun together and swim together afterwards if your game and want to cool down after we have a good time together.

My time in Townsville is limited as I have decided to spend November and December going on tour and ill only be in Townsville 2 days a week staying somewhere near the city. So if you wish to spend some time with me before I go on tour, I am available until Wednesday 2nd November and I am happy to see you before I go away. I have put the start of my touring schedule up and as I go along I will keep it updated as I go. I am actually looking forward to visiting some new and old places and spending time with a variety of people along the way.

In January I plan to go on a massive overseas holiday and if you want to hear more about it ill be blogging and posting photos when I return home in time for my birthday at the end of January!! I will be heading to the US for about 3 weeks or so which I am really excited about as its been a long time since I have been there to visit so hopefully it will be a blast. I will be travelling to a few different cities while I am there, going to a friends wedding and catching up with some old and new friends and hopefully have an absolute blast!!

So far I have planned tours to Cairns, Sydney, Bundaberg and I will be adding other cities to that list as I go along so if you want to see me ether give me a call or even send me an email and maybe I can add your town to my tour schedule. Obviously a deposit will guarantee some time together.

So hopefully you enjoy my new photos and maybe take me up on the offer of a cooling swim after our time in the bedroom which could add some fun to our time together make it more interesting. And I look forward to your requests for towns to visits. For you lovely Townsville gents make sure you get in early before I head off as I don’t want to miss out on seeing you before I go.

xoxoxo

 

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Understanding Boundaries & Consent – From my perspective

Over the last few weeks, I have had a number of gentlemen who have contacted me after seeing one of my ads and wanting to be friends, or want me to be their girlfriend, or even just hook up for free. I have also had a number of gents contacting me and getting irritated at me because I choose not to offer certain services such as threesomes with their mates.

Now I want to talk about boundaries and consent because I think its important to discuss it. Yes I am a sex worker. Yes I get paid cash in return for sexual services. But I still am allowed to set boundaries and expect that even though there is a cash transaction I still need to consent on what we are doing together.

Lets start with boundaries. Things such as asking about my relationship status, if I have children, do I live alone or with someone, what is my real name, pushing me to do services I have said no to, pushing for services without condoms when I have made it clear they aren’t on offer, and the list goes on. I, like many others in this industry have set boundaries in place for privacy, because we have limits, because there are things we may not be comfortable doing, maybe because providing certain things make us feel unsafe so we don’t offer it, there are many reasons why we have our boundaries in place. As a “client” it is up to you to respect those boundaries. They generally aren’t up for negotiation. And honestly you really shouldn’t get offended if we state that we don’t want to discuss certain parts of our lives or don’t offer certain services, want to only be contacted a certain way etc. These boundaries aren’t in place to offend or upset you, they are to make our time together go smoothly and be as enjoyable as possible for us both. The minute you start pushing the boundaries you make it difficult to be able to enjoy your company, why? Because if you cant respect the boundaries we have in place how do we know you aren’t going to keep pushing until you get what you want, and then things become unsafe. So, as a gentlemen caller, If we have boundaries in place all we ask is that you respect them and don’t try and negotiate them.

Now lets talk consent. When you contact an escort to spend time with her/him, remember that paying for a service doesn’t give automatic consent. Understand that consent is more then just a yes or no. Its respecting boundaries. Its understanding that during our time together, chances are we have discussed what is and isn’t on offer prior to your booking together. So if an escort tells you on the phone No I don’t offer that, it means that you don’t have consent to do that particular thing. When your spending time together your escort will have discussed their boundaries with you. What you can and cant do with them. So part of consent is that you respect those boundaries because by not respecting them, you are showing that you don’t understand that just because your paying for someones time doesn’t mean you automatically have their consent and by not respecting boundaries or the fact you still require an escorts consent to go ahead with various activities means you are getting into non consent areas and this is where things can go south quickly. So remember – Respect, Understanding boundaries and Getting Consent prior to and during our time together will ensure you have a good time.

So at the end of the day remember that while we will be friendly and interested in you during our time together we just ask that you respect the boundaries we have in place and to remember to have consent during all activities, and if you aren’t sure ask, we wont be offended we will appreciate it.

 

What You Can Learn From Sex Workers About Consent – Womanist Musings

What is sexual consent? – Reachout.com

Understanding Sex Work in an Open Society – Open Society Foundation

“Sex workers are experts at sexual consent” – Femifesto Website

Sex workers and sexual assault  – Consented

What Consent Looks Like – Rainn

With Sex Workers Too, Rape Is Still Rape – Sexuality Policy Watch

Understanding Consent – No one asks for it

Sex Workers Share stories of clients using the “L” Word – Harlot Media

 

Everyones Experience is different – But here’s mine

I cant talk about others lived experiences because we each have our own. But I am going to take some time to talk about mine. Prior to entering into this industry I had a completely different career obviously. One that had a big impact on my life both good and bad and I had to walk away from it due to a long list of reasons and every day a part of me wishes I could go back to that because it was an amazing life. It wasn’t perfect by any means but it was pretty amazing. The people I have in my life because of that part of my life are amazing and accepting and open minded and they support my choices. They don’t judge me, they accept me as I am. They treat me and my life choices with respect and dignity.

But I will be honest, since I began this journey into sex work I have seen both the good and bad in people. I have had great experiences and well some that are not very good at all. The good ones can really make your day, week or month. It can be as small as a gentleman caller telling you that he had a great time or it can be that someone tells you they look forward to seeing you, or even something such as when they call you they make the whole process of arranging to meet easy because they have taken the time to read your website. These things and many others can really make this work fun, and enjoyable.

An incident happened the other evening, which honestly similar experiences happen often enough that its time to talk about it. I had a man call and was rude, crass, stroppy and just outright unpleasant on the phone. And he admitted to me that it was purely for entertainment for himself and his group of buddies who were with him. And his reaction when he was called out… When I told him that from my perspective if guys feel the need to call an escort and purposely waste her/his time or calling to purposely be rude and crass and borderline disgusting on the phone, it tells me that either his friends and him have nothing happening in their lives that this is how grown men keep entertained or they really don’t like women at all because no self respecting guy would ever treat a woman whether shes an escort or not like that. And his response to being called out was to start name calling. It wasn’t to apologise for his behaviour but to start nasty name calling. And honestly even after sobering up, I believe there would be no regrets on how they behaved.

Now, and remember this is from my own personal experiences, This type of behaviour is something I experience on a semi regular basis. Yet want to know something? In my personal life, the men who I spend time with and there are quite a few I call friends, would never consider treating anyone like this. EVER….. And it gets me wondering, like sending cock photos without asking first, when did this sort of behaviour become ok? become acceptable? Now as a plus size escort, along with this behaviour, there are the clients who call and because of what ever reason I choose to not see them, rather then responding with “ok thank you for your time” they respond with “well I didn’t really want to see you you fat pig, your just cheaper then some of the other” and again I wonder where have the manners gone that that is how someone responds to my choosing not to see them?

So lets have a talk about this. No one is entitled to my services. I decide who I do and don’t see, you are welcome to call and enquire.. If you are polite and respectful on the phone and show that we are a good match chances are we wont have a problem arranging to meet for some fun… To be honest I would enjoy seeing you if that’s how you are towards me both on the phone and when we meet. Polite and respectful doesn’t mean boring… It means you respect my boundaries and we will have a great time together…

Honestly, I have come to the conclusion that there are always going to be guy out there who are as described above and its just how it is. But maybe its time to come out and say this is not acceptable, that this isn’t how you treat others. And 80% of the people who I spend time with are great, they are fantastic company, its just that 20% that ruin it for others.

While I choose not to let it inherently bother me or take it personally, I will continue to call these guys out on their behaviour because I feel that the best way to deal with these people is to call them out on it and then move on to the next thing. Its like with bullies, if they aren’t called out on their behaviour they will continue doing it.

So I wish to let all those lovely gentlemen who contact me know that they are very much appreciated. That it really can make a difference both in my attitude towards you, but it can also determine that our time together will be enjoyable.

 

Please note – these are my own personal experiences, I cant talk for others as their experience is different to mine and all our experiences vary and how we react to them is different.

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