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50 Shades of Grey…….Thoughts?

Reference – My Facebook Post

I live across from the new cinemas in Townsville and it seems there is a mass crowd heading to see the 50 Shades of Grey movie.

For myself, I read the novels wondering what all the fuss was about. And found myself quite disappointed on many levels by the books.

I found the writing style terrible, the BDSM aspects disturbing because it seemed almost more like rape/assualy rather than a consenting relationship. And I just found that the story overall was disappointing.

Now I will be honest, my understanding of BDSM is limited and I am interested in learning more. But my concern is that people wanting to dive in and explore BDSM based purely on these books without properly researching it and learning how to do things properly could end up hurt both physically and emotionally.

Id like to hear others thoughts on the books, the content of them and if anyone plans to see the movies.

Following on from a post I made on facebook about 50 Shades of Grey, both the books and the movie. I have some interesting thoughts on it all.

I live across from the new cinemas in Townsville and it seems there is a mass crowd heading to see the 50 Shades of Grey movie.

For myself, I read the novels wondering what all the fuss was about. And found myself quite disappointed on many levels by the books. The whole storyline and writing style is just terrible. They are badly written books. I found them difficult to read because of how badly written they are.

In terms of the BDSM Content within the book which is what concerns me the most is the fact that the discussion of consent, and having informed consent was not mentioned through out the book. The importance of Safe words wasn’t really discussed properly or in depth. So for me a lot of the BDSM aspects of these novels for me are bordering on Rape or Assault.

I will be honest, my experience and knowledge on BDSM Is limited and I am always learning about it. I have done a lot of reading, interacted with people within that community and have began to look at exploring it more with a professional. So that I can have a better understanding of BDSM but also for my own personal experience. Because it is something I have wanted to explore.

So I think that many people really should not use the books or the movies as a guide on how to do things within BDSM. I encourage lots of research, lots of communication with the partner you want to explore BDSM with, discuss your interests, what your limits and boundaries and make sure your properly informed before going ahead.

I would love to hear your thoughts. So feel free to make comments on my facebook post that I have attached to this post. Its interesting to hear other peoples take and views.

Below I have listed some information resources for you to look at as well as some general information I also recommend that if you want to dive into this world there are a number of Professional Doms within the industry who can help you explore in a safe manner. If this is something you want to explore more please feel free to contact me for some referrals.

What is BDSM? How do we safely practise it? Is it anything like 50 Shades of Grey? Joining Mel Boutkasaka on Drive is Miss Fleur, an award-winning fetish and fantasy Dominatrix, who has been in the industry for 10 years.

Miss Fleur www.missfleur.com

Wikipedia – BDSM

Kink Academy

A Submissives Initiative Website

BDSM For Dummies

Submissive Guide

Dungeons

The Kastle – Dungeon in Sydney

The Correction Centre – Dungeon in Melbourne

The Fetish Palace – Dungeon in Adelaide

Fetish House – Dungeon in Melbourne

Referral List

BDSM/Fetish Australia Mistresses – Open Directory

Artemisia DeVine – Sydney Based Mistress

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