Looking for a Girlfriend? Why Escort Websites and Directories Are the Wrong Places to Search

Over recent times, I’ve been receiving more and more calls, emails, texts, and even Facebook chats from men seeking an actual girlfriend. It’s understandable that in the world we live in, finding a partner can be hard. However, if you are looking at escort websites, escort directories, or even in the adult section of the newspaper looking for a girlfriend, I think you’re looking in the wrong places.

I know there are men out there who think that if they flatter me enough, I will be willing to be their girlfriend so they don’t have to pay for sex. But there are many who are going to these places genuinely thinking it’s the place to find a girlfriend.

Let me be clear… In terms of wanting to be in a relationship or wanting a boyfriend, my answer to this is always going to be no. Partly because I already have some great men in my life whose company I enjoy, but also because when it comes to seeking a partner, I like to do it on my terms, in my own time, when I am ready.

So, if you are reading this and looking for a relationship, I suggest you check out eHarmony, RSVP, Oasis Active, or maybe even Tinder if you’re just looking for a hookup. Because when you contact me seeking this kind of thing, I will always either refer you to a dating site or go over my prices for my services and my time.

I do understand what it feels like to be lonely or to want someone special in my life. I really do, and I can empathize with this feeling. But I am not the right person for you to be seeking this with. We don’t know each other, we have never met, or if we have, it has been for a service. So the client-escort relationship isn’t the place to be looking for a girlfriend because how we get to know each other is different than when you actually date someone.

I am more than happy to spend time with you and help you become confident around women, help you develop skills to meet the right woman for you, tell you some great ways to meet someone, but please don’t ask me to be the woman you want to date. It just isn’t what I am wanting.

I don’t like to disappoint people. I don’t like hurting someone’s feelings. But if you ask me for a relationship, you are going to be met with my refusal and me questioning your motives. You are going to find me asking you questions such as, “Are you hoping that if you tell me how great you are, or that you’re into me, that I will agree to be your girlfriend so you can have sex with me for free?” And I think this could get awkward for both of us.